Quitting your job is a very big, brave thing to do. I commend and admire anyone who has the courage to do it. I have been in the exact situation where I was at a point in my career and felt like I had to change something, even though I was being told that quitting is the wrong thing to do.
I’ll start off by mentioning that three years ago my boyfriend was in a job that was destroying him. Both his personality and his mental health was on a fast decline. He woke up one morning realising that his life had come to a point where he was far from happy and auto-pilot had kicked in every morning when he went to work. His weekends were being ruined with the thought of going to work in the office every Monday and even our holidays were taking a toll. I remember walking in Yorkshire one day on our four day long holiday and, noticing that he was quiet and vacant, I asked him what was wrong. He just dismissed the question and I realised that our holiday had been overridden with thoughts of his work. Getting to this point had been a long process and it was only when he was at the lowest of the low that he noticed what had happened. So, that morning he woke up in floods of tears beside me and I knew I had to help him get out of what his life had become. Stubborn and determined, however, he got in his car and started to drive to work with his eyes red and puffy from crying. On the way he looked at himself in the mirror and decided to turn the car around, coming back home. When he got home he had already decided what to do… he was going to hand in his notice that week. Although his family were encouraging him ‘not to make rash decisions’ and couldn’t understand why he would want to quite, I am so proud of the choice he made that day. Living in a time of pressure, it is a difficult choice to make but I got my boyfriend back the day that he quit his job and left. He may not be earning as much as he did before or getting promotions, but he got back his personality and drive. He is the person that I fell in love with, again.
Now, two years later I found myself in a similar situation. Not quite the same as I had only been at the job for a month and I was not incredibly unhappy but I had gotten to the auto-pilot stage where I felt numb and emotionless. Someone very close to me had passed away and I hadn’t taken any time off from work due to it being a new job so I shut myself down and became numb. I also realised that there were a lot of things wrong with the workplace that I didn’t agree with and I met up with a friend and asked for some impartial advice from her. She suggested that I do what was right for me and what would make me feel more comfortable in myself and my life and, after thinking long and hard about it, I decided to quit the job with immediate effect. I had no back up jobs to fall back on so I was literally left with nothing but myself and my emotions. But it turned out to be the best thing I ever did. I was then able to grieve for my loss and retrieve the emotions that I had shut away to the back of my mind. It was a relief to be able to feel again and, thinking about the stage my boyfriend had gotten to years back, I was pleased that I hadn’t let myself get too far in the auto mode.
Quitting your job is going to be one of the biggest decisions you will make. Especially if you have commitments and a family to look after, but I fully believe that if you are at a stage in your career where you are not happy and work is taking over your life in a very negative way, then the only way to carry on living is to change it. If you take anything away from this blog post, I want you to remember that we only live this life once so let’s make it the best that we can. I am a big believer in living your life in the way that you want to and, even if I’m not there yet, I am on my way.
Love to you all x